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curate life groups

Inspired by Letter in a Bottle's Move In and Romy's I’ve been using my hyper independence the wrong way.

Work filling you with joy and a solid friend group can show similar promise for other aspects of life. Even those consumed by work find time to live outside it. While acknowledging downtime is an option, more exist outside the false dichotomy of work and play. There's more to life than any man can name.

I'm led to believe that every aspect of life can have a friend group curated around it. Whether that's wise for any particular aspect is a personal problem to solve. Yet, the abundance of possibility feels warm and welcome. It could be worthwhile to obsess over the diversity of your interpersonal contexts: family or found family, work and its colleagues, career friend groups, partners in play, schoolmates, fellow hobbyists, sports clubs and teams, and everything in between.

You don't have to settle for expecting others to invite themselves into your desired activities. Flip your script into becoming a perpetual commotion machine: executing upon initiation opportunities and surfing above the waves of rejection.

Following the pattern from iterate above negativity, invert consistent risk aversion into consistent risk neutrality or loving. Exceptions defy rules and act as reasoning or leverage for such a personal experiment. Every ask involves risk. Ask your vanity, bootstrapping fixation, and "self-reliance bubble" away.

Keep your asks small and expected answers smaller to respect people's time and attention. "Let's do this activity" can be enough motivation. Talk to people like they are already your friend to increase your mileage.

A fear of improbable hypotheses can fumble even the largest of bags. You only know so much of the likelihood of rejection, mismatching, and failure until you play the game. Communicate such that your fears make way for survivable, enjoyable outcomes.

You can only do so much by yourself. The grace of others can only do so much for you. It's all an intricate balancing act at the end of the day.

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