find your people
Inspired by Path of Thought's Mindset - Why I Do Not Care What People Think & Why I Do.
Being helpful, open, and kind to others. Hyper-focusing on yourself. Surprise! You can do both things simultaneously.
Spend your resources finding and enriching your people: those who "get" you, whose thoughts relate to you, and who see the good in you. Seek not only like minds, but also supportive and even reciprocal ones. Appreciate them for all that they are worth.
People think what they want to think of you. You're not obliged to accept others' reflections and interpretations. In the same vein, others are the judge of whether they change their impression of you. They might even self-doubt to where they don't think outside themselves anyhow. Let people who don't "get" you narrow down those who could.