chase infinite rejections
In How do you handle rejection?, Rhui asked:
Dear Internet,
How do you handle rejection?
I feel like I haven't yet handled it well, if at all. So much so that I have been ruminating on it instead of putting myself in a position to handle it.
girl's Substack note spoke to me:
just saw a girl explain that she tired to get rejected 1000 times in 2025 and ended up being cast in plays, winning beauty pageants, securing paid brand deals, appearing in commercials. this is your sign to chase rejection to the point of “accidental” success. you’ll be suprised.
I can only imagine that so much of survival is chasing infinite rejections. Besides the obvious call to ask for what I want more, what else can help anyone that feels like they don't chase them enough or at all? If you have any better ideas than these, please share them so I can add yours to them:
- Leveraging existing opportunities
- Discovering unrealized opportunities
- Finding your people
- Making more friends
- Talking to more strangers
- Earning more haters
I think back to Rhui's post with her having processed being rejected for her university's graduate program:
Another way I've been processing this, which is something that I think helps better than ruminating on the “whys” of the rejection, is to focus on what I have gained since the failure.
I vibe with that paradigm shift. Although, in order to follow suit myself, I must expose myself to opportunities that I can be rejected for in the first place. As consistently as I have posted here, that doesn't seem to be anywhere near the answer to my problems.
If you feel similarly about playing the game poorly or not playing at all, how can we best help each other out of this dangerously risk-averse hole? If you don't, how did you escape the hole or made sure that you never fell in? If I haven't made it clear, I could really use your help here.