Imperfect

become a sister

Inspired by Toska's I don't know how to be a sister.

I found this quote from Kurt Vonnegut's If This Isn't Nice, What Is?: Advice for the Young shared by Metallic Aftertaste in freefall:

We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down.

The first answer I brainstormed to "I don't know how to be a sister" was "You can find out how to be one".

You can find this out together. Questions tormenting you may torment her such that workshopping them together might save mutual trouble. From the same cloth, each of you may have answers filling in each other's gaps. Sometimes, all you need in a situation is a few minutes with someone you trust. Rinse, repeat, and reciprocate as the days go by.

Redefining the meaning and scope of family can happen more often than we detect. Let positive outcomes arise from such transformations. Where overrides are needed, particularly where the meaning of family was made forgettable thanks to your upbringing, may you handle those gracefully.

While embracing the potential of emotions could parallel the potential for meaningfulness and connection, I get accepting the unknown and keeping expectations loose. Having space to move around in is precious.

If being a prototypical or conventional sister is out of the cards, trying to be the best one you can be with the time you have together sounds worthwhile. Less fitting a mold, more sculpting a relationship. Make up for lost time by seeing the glass half full and filling it up over time. May your cup runneth over.

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