audiences love self-compassion
Inspired by Maximus' Finding an audience is hard.
Valuing yourself for your own sake and not just others' sakes better shows how they can generate value with you. That, in turn, makes uplifting audiences come easier and stick around for the long haul.
Adopting charitable counterparts of existing negative feelings can accelerate your self-compassion. For example, you can choose between feeling like:
- A weird person or someone that belongs.
- A third wheel or a welcome addition.
- A background character or a foreground character.
- You're kept around out of pity or positivity.
Even those negative feelings have their positive frames. People throughout history have certainly rocked as weird people, third wheels, background characters, or being kept around out of pity.
Every actor within a social graph has at least one redeeming quality to them. Should they take themselves seriously enough, their repertoire can grow and adapt over time to the benefit of one or many.
Uplifting your outlook this way could elicit the following behaviors and more:
- Seeing many open doors and walking through them having embodied kindness within.
- Changing your environment to improve how you feel about and take care of yourself and others.
- Reverse engineering the paths your predecessors took as loose guidelines instead of hard and fast rules.
However, as much as your mindset can inform your success, it cannot replace your execution. You can even flip the above formula on its head, starting from behavioral change that begets not only itself, but also a stronger mentality to sustain it in the long run. Remember that just being yourself and being involved in your own life are dynamic multivariable functions you can modify.